BeingME is a facilitated, peer support, and discussion group for
transexual women that helps members learn about and understand themselves,
while dealing with issues important to their transition and the challenges
they may encounter along the way.
We have been serving the transgender community in Orange County, California since 2003. Prior to that time BeingME was known as PEAL, or "Persons Exploring Alternative Lifestyles", and had been working with the community for more than 20 years.
Examples of discussions in which we have engaged have centered around our feelings of loss, rejection, victories, guilt, fear and societal acceptance or denial of us. Although BeingME is not a therapy group, we attempt to deal with issues concerning the inner development of the person, allowing and encouraging self exploration during the transition journey.
We hold meetings twice a month. The first meeting is on the first Friday of each month. It is a closed meeting, open only to our members so they may share and speak freely about sensitive subjects in complete confidence.
The second meeting is held on the third Friday of each month and is open to friends and family of our members. It is not, however, open to those offering goods and services to our members. Our hosts, The Center of Orange County holds an annual community fair for that purpose.
We offer a safe environment and an opportunity to make friends as well as meeting others like ourselves. That said, BeingME is not a "sex group" or place to "hook up". If that is your goal, BeingME is not for you.
Frequently Asked Questions:
Q. How should I dress when I come to a BeingME meeting?
A. The choice is yours! If you are not yet comfortable going out in public "en fem", then feel free to come in "male mode". Our goal is for you to be comfortable and transition at your own speed.
Q. How old are the people in the group?
A. We have a wide age range in those who attend. Some are in their early 20s, while we have several in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and even 60s!
Q. How many people usually come to a meeting?
A. It varies from 8 to 15 or more people at each meeting.
Q. How is the parking at the Center OC?
A. There are about 10 parking places on the premises, as well as plenty of street parking.
Q. Can I bring someone to the meeting who is NOT transexual?
A. The first meeting of each month is a closed meeting for members only but for the 2nd meeting of the month it is quite alright to bring a close family member, a spouse or significant other who wants to support you.
Q. Is this a psychology group?
A. No - it is a peer discussion and support group. Although we sometimes have a psychologist attending, he or she is NOT acting in a professional capacity while there.
Q. What kind of topics are usually discussed?
A. We have a wide range of topics. Meetings do not have an agenda. We discuss anything of general interest to MTF transexuals, such as surgery, therapy, electrolysis, name change, hormones, dealing with friends, family, employers and co-workers,etc. YOU determine our topics!
Q. Why do you use the term "transexual" instead of "transgender"?
A. "Transgender" is an umbrella term that includes: transexuals, crossdressers, drag queens, bigender, androgyne, agender, genderqueer, gender fluid, etc.. "Transexual" refers specifically to a person who permanently changes his/her gender of birth through hormones and/or surgery.
Q. I am not transexual, but I would like to meet a transexual woman. Would I be welcome to attend your group?
A. No - BeingME is not a place to "hook-up". There are several places in Southern California to do that, but this is not one of them.